How to Begin Anal Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Safe and Pleasurable Exploration

So, you’re curious about anal play. Maybe you've thought about it in the shower, whispered it to a partner, or stared a little too long at that one toy on our website. First off—welcome. You’re not weird. You’re not alone. You’re just one of the many people ready to explore the forbidden fruit… of the booty variety 🍑.

Let’s break it down nice and easy—no pressure, no pain, and definitely no judgment.

1. Get Your Head (and Butt) in the Game

Anal play isn’t just a physical thing—it’s a mindset. If you’re nervous, that’s normal. If you’re excited, even better. What matters most? You’re doing this for your pleasure, not because someone else saw it on a spicy website.

Whether you're flying solo or bringing a +1, take a breath. Relax. This is supposed to feel good.

2. Talk Dirty (or Just Talk Honestly)

If you're playing with a partner, communication is sexier than anything you'll find in a toy box. Talk about what you’re curious about, what you’re down to try, and what’s off-limits.

Solo? Still talk. To yourself. Out loud if you want. You're the director and the star here.

3. Clean Is Queen 👑

Let’s address the elephant in the room: hygiene. No, you don’t need to turn your bathroom into a science lab. A warm shower, some gentle washing, and maybe a quick rinse with an anal-safe bulb if you're feeling extra are all you need to feel fresh and ready.

Bonus tip: Trim those nails and wash your hands unless you want to bring a very different kind of surprise to the party.

4. The Lube is the Love Language

We’ll say it louder for the people in the back: lube is NOT optional.

The backdoor doesn’t self-lubricate (rude, we know), so go heavy on a good-quality water- or silicone-based lube. And yes—you can always add more. In fact, please do.

No lube = no fun. You deserve fun.

5. Start Small, Stay Chill

This is not the time to go full “Fifty Shades.” If it’s your first time, go slow and start small. Think pinky finger, slim plug, or beginner beads. And whatever you do, don’t use anything without a flared base. That’s not the kind of surprise trip to the ER anyone wants.

Breathe deep, go slow, and if something doesn’t feel right, stop. You’re not trying to win a medal—you’re here for good vibes only.

6. Use the Right Tools (No, Not That Remote)

We stock toys made just for beginners because your booty deserves the best. Some faves to start with:

• Slim, soft silicone plugs

• Flexible anal beads with a loop handle

• Gentle vibrating plugs that buzz, not bulldoze

Pro tip: Buy yourself the toy. Wrap it like a gift. Thank yourself later.

7. Afterplay is Foreplay for Next Time

Once you’re done, take a moment. Clean up your toys, wash up, and treat yourself to something cozy (a snack, a nap, a smug smile). This is your journey—and yes, you crushed it.

Whether you loved every second or found out it’s not your thing, you explored your body. That’s hot.

8. Keep It Playful

Anal play isn’t a “one and done” thing. Some people take a few tries to enjoy it. Some people go from fingers to plugs to vibes to thrones (okay, maybe not thrones). Go at your pace. You’re not late. You’re not early. You’re right on time.

Final Thought (From Your Friendly Pleasure Pros)

Anal play doesn’t have to be scary or serious. It can be slow, sexy, silly, giggly, messy—and still amazing. So take your time, have your lube ready, and when you're ready to knock on the backdoor… do it like you own the place.

Ready to take the first step? Browse our Beginner Anal Play Collection and start your journey into a whole new world of pleasure.